The Role of a Coach as Navigator

and the reason i'm asking you this because i like to me i'm a coach i'm an old school coach like when i was in when i was playing sports growing up. They called you names. They kicked you in the ass. They weren't nice, but they did it because they wanted to win. And because they cared about your performance, they cared about you. Like they cared about you. Right. So that's the way I've always been coached when I was an athlete. So that's the way I coach. So I'll be someone's biggest cheerleader when they do the right thing. And I'll be fully invested with you if you're doing the right thing. But if you're fucking around, I'm not that interested anymore. And I'm going to tell you to get your shit together. And I had a client yesterday. He, uh, he's, you know, I've trained him for, I don't know, four or five years, a long fucking time. And he's just never gotten as lean as he wants to get, but he also, he fucks around. He doesn't hit all his training sessions. He doesn't train as hard as he should. He, you know, he's trying to find quick fixes. He doesn't sleep enough. He takes on too much work. He's stressed out all the time. He drinks a little bit too much. He's never, ever followed a diet consistently in the time that I've trained him. And so it's, it's about, you know, once a year he comes around and says, Hey, can we really get on the nutrition? And I'm like, are you, are you finally, if I, I'm going to write all this stuff out and I'm going to orchestrate it. Are you finally going to follow your nutrition coach? I'm going to do it this time. And I'm like, no, you're not. I'm like, bro, this is like the 12th time we've gone through this. Are you actually going to do it this time? But he has this understanding that he's the, he, He's basically the captain of his own ship, and I'm just the navigator. So I'm going to tell him where to go, but if he doesn't steer the fucking ship the right way, we're probably going to run up on the reef. And so I try to coach everybody that way and saying, look, if you just follow the map and don't do any detours, we're going to get there. But the more detours you take, the longer this is going to happen. And he goes, oh, I just feel like my arms and my shoulders, they're just real soft. It doesn't even look like a lift. I'm like, yeah, because you're fat. and he's like holy shit i'm like no i mean let's just say what it is if you want me to be politically correct i'll just say okay well you're still fairly gravitationally challenged right but let's just let's just call a spade a spade you're still fat you're not gonna have muscle tone because you're still fat and you miss your sessions and you don't eat enough to fill your muscles out and you don't sleep enough to recover so you're inflamed but it's like the the kind of the whole

point to this is that, you know, if you follow and do what you say you're going to do with the program, you're going to see the results. But you also have to have patience and understand that you're going to have to do this for a significant period of time if you want to see success. You know, like he he loses 10 kilos. I'm like, I'm fucking stoked for you because my arms still look bad. My shoulders are bad. Yeah, because you're still fat. You still have probably another fucking 20 kilos to lose. Right. Like I'm going to cheerlead for you, but I'm also going to be I'm also going to slap you in the face with a little bit of reality. You got a lot more fat to lose than you think you do.