Adult Diagnosis and Mental Clarity

i remember i remember vividly um you know like having i actually went to the doctor for something else like i was like well you know i went in and i was i was nervous about something i was like so i i was you know i'd last minute appointment to go to the doctor i was worried about something else i'd had about four or five coffees by that point in the day just like stimulating myself i was like i was like i still do to a degree but certainly more on the stages to keep me focused in that stage and i go in and i sit down to the doctors and i my my blood pressure was through the roof probably because of nerves white coat syndrome caffeinated right you know and i you know i've done enough of your course to check my blood pressure fairly regularly to know that i'm i'm i'm not i'm not about to have a heart attack and keel over so i'm getting in you've got five or six nurses around me testing my blood pressure guys he's really through the roof like no no i've tested like they're like here's the last three four mornings of readings i'm all right like go in went in immediately found out what i was worrying about was fine i was like while I'm here, like, you know, let, can I ask about this? Cause I've been worried about this for a while. Started going through the little questionnaire and then it was like, yeah, you're off the charts. I'm going to prescribe you this. And like, boom. And then I go away and like one, like within one day, I'm just like, oh, okay. This is, it was, it was such a, it was such an incredible feeling because it was like getting diagnosed as an adult. It's like this weight off your mind. All the times where you felt like, why, why did I say that or why am I so incapable of doing that or feel like I'm lazy or feeling like I'm a failure and I sat there I felt like I'm a relatively smart kid I've done all right for myself why can't I live anywhere near my potential and it's just like I have an answer which is such a lovely feeling because it was just like I'm not dumb I'm not lazy I'm not you know I don't lack willpower you know or motivation whatever buzzword you want to put with it and it was such a weight off my shoulders yes it's free it's a feeling of freedom it's it's like finally now i understand you know why i've had all these issues right so you know um yeah it can be it can be a really a really freeing experience and for me like i've never had to worry too much about it because i got diagnosed early, and I know I've always had it, but, you know, getting back on it, getting back on it, what was it, February 2020, that's shown me, like, I, you know, it's been, like, okay, this is why, you know, the last, like, 10 years have been kind of chaotic, up and down, and this probably should never have gotten off my meds. So, one of the things you mentioned at the start this like doubling back was that like there's many benefits i think well well we can double back to that whenever you want um but like what like one of the things you said there's many benefits of having adhd and i i totally agree with you i think one of them is creativity but you have to find solutions outside the box of stuff because stuff don't work i've tried every to-do list every system everything to make my life easier in the book we have probably tried more productivity hacks than anyone else on the planet so there is going to be people listening to this that some may be able to relate with our stories some may just procrastinate at times and be a little bit bored first off like why in a broader spectrum do you think people generally procrastinate and from all the stuff that you've tried through all your years what are the best productivity lessons you have personally learned so like why do people procrastinate in general i think well i think it's it's just because they just, they're doing things they just don't want to do. Right. That's usually like, imagine not been in this situation before where you're in a job, you just absolutely hate. So you just find shit to do because you're just not having much fun with the things you're doing for work. Now for, for us being ADD, that's ridiculous. I fucking love the work. I love to program. I love to get online. I love talking to my clients. So if I don't do that, it's not because I don't want to do it. It's because I'm having an episode or whatever, you know, or I'm stressed out and it's making my symptoms a lot worse. Because I actually, you know, I can't think of anything more awesome than sitting here and running cool-ass training programs and seeing my clients put on like 50 kilos in a back squat in a couple of months. You know, I can't think of anything more fucking cool than that. And that creativity, creativity is a big one too, because I think that's one of the benefits as as well is that you can see these abstract things that most people wouldn put the two and two together right Like if you think one of the things that you learned in program design is the backload of structural balance. And you look at that and it's like, it defies everything we're told not to do in a workout. But when you put it together, it fucking works like a fucking champion. But only somebody that had that ability to be creative and think outside the box, only someone like that would be able to put that together because someone they couldn't think like that would never say well let's put this with this that's a good idea they'd go no this and this does not go together and then we would be like well why not let's try it and see what happens but you know so i think there's that that benefit as far as an interesting note from that when you when i remember you you put a video going through that i was like this makes so much sense like yeah actually in a way it makes more sense than the generic stuff that we you you originally told because it's like like it's two sides of a pivot like it why why is no one thought like that before yeah because they're told they can't do things and they're just so they just blindly believe it without saying well this actually kind of makes sense the way this works let's try and see what happens and i remember on the front of that video i tell you guys like this is going to look so stupid and you're going to think i'm absolutely insane but i'm telling you this works and everybody tried and like holy shit that works really fast um i just don't talk about it in public because people call me a fucking moron because they're doing everything that they're told not to do but whatever anyone wants to learn more about that our last podcast i'll uh put in the show notes description below if you want to listen to sound like a moron but he's right that's it a moron but but somehow it works who knows um as far as productivity um there's a couple of things number one i'm really bad at saying yes when i should say no so somebody's like hey can you do do this? I'm like, yes. Can you do this? Yes. Can you do this? Yes. And then it's like, okay, I've got too many yes things I can't actually do. And the problem is a lot of people want things done now. And it's like, okay, but your yes thing isn't something that's crucial that needs to be done now. But then if I don't do it right, then you forget. So then you piss people off and you upset people and all that. And they don't understand because they don't understand what's going on in your head. So I would say number one is just learn that it's okay to say no to people. and it's okay to tell people, you know, I can do that, but I can't do it right now, but I'm going to need you to contact me maybe in two weeks and then maybe I'll be able to do it. So that's one thing I've had to do is like, say, I can't do it now, but I can do it. I can probably do it in a couple of weeks. And then I don't get back to them and they get mad. So I always, I put ownership in that, in their court and I say, look, but you're going to need to contact me, contact me like next friday and we'll see what's going on right because then they can't get mad because they accept the responsibility of contacting me so then that takes my ownership away from it um the second thing is get things done immediately when you wake up and i can't i try not to do any appointments in the morning if i can help it i try to push there are sometimes i have to do things first thing like mentorships or consults or whatever like at seven in the morning because they're on the other side of the world and they can't do it any other time. But if I can avoid that, I try to block out that morning so that I can sit at my computer and just get in a good rhythm for six to eight hours and get it done. Then if I can get all my tasks that I need to get done that day, then I free up the rest of the time to just, if I get distracted, it's cool because I already got that shit done. But I have to do it in the morning when I get my, take my meds take my coffee put my nicotine in put my headphones on music and just start going at it i think that i think that's an interesting one and i another thing i i remember you reading your website that owning a business one advice you give to yourself my risk can go off in a tangent but is that that freedom line every business coach talks about these days is a myth but i do think where that line does is relevant is the ability to go i'm going to block that work in the morning because sometimes when me still doing a lot of one-to-one coaching is that my mornings end up blocked out with client work and so that is the time where i would be so much better at doing some of the stuff that now is pushed to later in the day into the evening and things like that so i i 100 get that point i want to have a quieter morning i get so much more done all the time yeah yeah